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This is a hard one, but a good one. In all the years I've been working on myself one thing I left behind was understanding myself (my body) Yes I know what I love to do, yes I know what makes my soul happy but understanding yourself goes a lot deeper than just the stuff. Let me give you a little example. After having my second little boy I decided that I wouldn't go back on any sort of contraceptive, I realised I had using this stuff since I was 16, over 20 years. (fuck that makes me feel older then I wanted it to) but even so I know I didnt want to be on them anymore, so I stopped. Well what a rollercoaster that has been. My emotions were all over the place, add having a new baby to the mix, a house renovation, and no sleep.. I was what I would consider a mess. My stress levels were huge and I didn’t realise it. Over the next few years I have learned what can take my mind off the stressful stuff, what makes me happy, what I love doing and where I want to be in the next 3 years. but I never understood myself. With all this good stuff going on I could not for the life of me think what my emotions were still raining their own wave of weirdness. I wanted to lose weight, but I kept eating chocolate like it was going out of fashion, my meals were all healthy and balanced but snacking was becoming an issue for me, then as if to really kick me under the emotional bus, my periods got worse, more frequent, more painful and lasted longer. all to a pint I almost passed out one day. I spoke to the nurse and they did a few tests as I thought maybe I was starting to get symptoms of Perimenopause. They were very similar, from everything I had read about it. But do you know what, it turns out I was stressed, and I didnt know I was stressed. This was caused from the lack of sleep I was getting from my kids not sleeping. (not really much I could do about that.) working late to get stuff done, and being on the go all the time being a stay at home mom with more job in one day then my hubby had to do in a week. So I started to do a few things for me that I had never really done before. Along with tracking my period (which I had always done) I started to track my moods, the way I felt, how I acted when it was two weeks before my period was due. (I designed A tracker the fit what I needed, It’s £2.00..Click here to see more) It sounds so simple, but this really helped me to understand some of the emotions and feelings I was dealing with and how I could handle them. This is still a journey for me. From then I started looking into supplements I could take to help me, I started taking a multivitamin and within a few months I could feel a small difference in how my mood was. I looked into the stress hormone and how it can affect you, and I saw this was also a lot of my symptoms. Tired, lack of sleep (because even when the kids slept, I would still wake up) mood swings, irritabel, anger, lack of energy, horrid PMSing. Anyway I won’t go into too much detail, but I realised I needed to be kinder to myself and help my body support me. It’s still a work in progress that I'm sure will work out. but if you're struggling with anything I want you to seek the answers from yourself. If you need any help I’m here for you, I can help coach you. Knowing and understanding yourself is so important. here are three ways you can help understand yourself a little better Mind - Feed it, give it what it loves, be curious and learn. I’m not just talking about knowledge here, I’m talking about what we see. The experiences we have, and how they can encourage us to do more and be more. Conversations we have, memories we make, but also allowing space for the mind to just be. Allowing it to settle and relex. Body - Take care of it, try and understand it. Knowing your body well goes without saying, but being able to act on it when we know something is not right is brave. Feeding your body what it needs with good foods and exercise, can really help you feel good about yourself. Soul - Ignite it, give it the love and attention it deserves, but also pass that love to others, this will also feed the soul and help all those happy hormones come to life. Finding what makes you happy can light your soul on fire, for me this comes in the form of reading writing and yoga. I found my glimmers - flowers, fresh cut grass and being by the sea, calms me and makes me happy as soon as I see them. Life is an ever changing journey, we have to ride with it, fight for it and love it unconditionally. You can read more about Glimmers on this blog link… If you look after yourself, it will show in those around you. Bekki xx

5 types of self-care • Physical • Social • Mental • Spiritual • Emotional Physical Self-care The physical self-care is really simple, it all about what you body, What food to put in, getting the right amount if sleep, Your physical activity and yuo health needs. I.e going to the doctor when you need to. Social self-care Social self-care is all about the social aspects of your life. Building, nurturing and maintaining relationships with others. Having a social life, getting out seeing people. and have face to face in person interactions with friends and family. Mental self-care This area is all about your mind and keeping it sharp and alert,it can be things like doing puzzles, reading, watching movies, learning something new. anything that stimulates your mind. Spiritual Self-care This one may be a little difficult for some, it’s about nurturing your spirit. It doesn't have to be religious (I’m not religious). But it can mean having a deeper sense of meaning, like understanding your values. Or like me understanding or having a connection to the universe. or simple Meditation to get a better understanding of yourself. Emotional This one can be tough, as a society we don't like to talk about emotions. But I do…this is about making sure you can cope with emotions when the arise. making sure you are able to express your feelings when you need to. Or know that you need to develope skills to cope or deal with your emotions. Why is it important • Reducing Anxiety and depression • Reducing stress and improving resilience • Improving happiness • Increasing energy • Reducing burn out • Stronger interpersonal relationships How many are you doing right now? If you would like to know more about this head over to my blog where you get dig a little deeper if you want to. (link to 5 types blog) Look after Yourself Bekki xx